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Empathy’s a powerful tool.
But it’s frustrating when it’s not used intelligently. You find that frustrating, don’t you? I know how you feel.
I’ve worked on lots of copywriting projects which demanded a touch of sympathy. A friendly voice that understands your financial predicament, or shows the warmth of a family GP.
Of course, empathy isn’t always real. It’s slight of hand, a trick we use to make copy connect with people. In short, it’s one of the irresistible lies we tell.
But, as I found out when dealing with Microsoft’s Live Support, some people aren’t very good liars.
Why I Needed Microsoft Support
It’s probably not strictly copywriting, but I recently dealt with communications coming out of Microsoft in the form of their live support team.
I’ll give you some brief background to why I got in touch with them. Because it’s fairly boring, I’ll do it in useful bullet points:
- I had a subscription, but the payment card I’d set up expired
- I had a Paypal account linked to my Microsoft login, but didn’t want the money taken from there
- I added a new payment card on the website
- I tried to switch the payment methods, but the button on the website didn’t work
So the Microsoft Billing website was broken, and that’s where it started. I was carefully pushed away from calling anyone, and directed to try live chat with a support expert.
Well, I say expert…
How It Went Wrong
Things got off to a decent enough start. I explained that I needed the subscription moved from the expired debit card to the new one. Easy.
“No worries,” the agent said enthusiastically. “I can help you with this.”
Just an (incredibly slow) 15 minute wait, and it was done. The payment had gone through and everything was okay.
Other than the fact that I received an email from Paypal, telling me the money had been taken from there. The wrong account. Not what I asked them to do.
I explained that this caused a problem. With some client payments coming in through Paypal (and not a lot else), I now had an accounting workload that I didn’t have before, and wouldn’t have had if the payment had been taken from my card.
The agent – and when I say the agent, I mean Microsoft – had given me work to do.
Sure, I was frustrated. Yes, I was even mildly annoyed. But I would’ve let it go if the agent hadn’t said:
“I totally understand and feel you, Stephen. I was in a similar situation myself and it drove me nuts.”
Hitting the Empathy Button
It was like this Microsoft support agent (or AI) had a special button on her keyboard, one marked “Empathy”.
The button triggered a sentence that was so obviously pre-written, and so inappropriate to the situation, that I was genuinely shocked.
What an incredibly specific, unusual situation to be in. Unless, of course, you’re lying.
And my point isn’t about the mistakes that happened, or the use of a pre-written response.
It’s just a really badly written phrase to use.
Copywriting Empathy Isn’t Copywriting Coincidence
You see, showing empathy doesn’t mean saying “Yeah, I had that exact same thing!” That’s not understanding.
That’s lying. (And not in a good way.) It’s deceiving people.
Instead, showing empathy should recognise that we all feel the same things, but every situation is unique. I don’t want to hear that this happens all the time. I don’t want to know that somebody else had the same problem. I don’t care about other people.
I care about me.
So I want to hear an apology, and hear someone say they understand how I feel – even though how I feel is an individual thing.
When we’re copywriting for technical support, customer service, or even true sales copy for a brand that’s all about helping people, we need to show understanding.
I don’t expect a bank to say “Hey, we’ve got no money either!”. Just tell me it’s rubbish to need cash, and that they can help.
I don’t expect a doctor to say “Y’know, I’ve been feeling dizzy all day, too!”.
And I certainly didn’t expect Microsoft to underplay, undermine, and undervalue a frustrating situation by pretending it had happened to them.